Is a cash bar at a wedding reception tacky? - Page 2

TheHeel · 05-24-2015, 08:10 PM

wifey and I are very laid back. We had an open bar and everyone had way too much fun.

freethrowtommy · 05-24-2015, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by roc21

This doesn't matter, when you have an open bar its a set price regardless of how much is served.

Most places I know charge by the drink. Unless you are able to purchase a set amount of booze beforehand, I don't know many places that don't charge based on the amount consumed (ie per drink).

You basically run up a bar tab for everyone.

glen87 · 05-24-2015, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by roc21

This doesn't matter, when you have an open bar its a set price regardless of how much is served.

this depends on your contract and if you buy in advance.

NickM · 05-24-2015, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by glen87

limit it to specific items, or the bill will run up quickly.

you also will get people who:

A) get a drink
B) drink a sip and set it down somewhere
C) forget where they put it
D) go get a new one since it is "free"
E) take a sip and..........

repeat over and over

In defense of those people, within a minute of the drink being put down, it had probably been surreptitiously poured into the groom's 15-year old second cousin's glass of Coke.

Clarka3 · 05-24-2015, 09:12 PM

i don't think it's tacky. weddings can get expensive.

but, as people have said, expect the gifts to go down a bit if you go with a cash option, or a destination wedding.

Gibberish · 05-24-2015, 09:13 PM

If you can't afford it, don't have it. That simple

lindeman79 · 05-24-2015, 09:20 PM

I tend to lead in this direction.

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Originally Posted by Gibberish

If you can't afford it, don't have it. That simple

dolphinsdude · 05-24-2015, 09:23 PM

At my wedding we had an open bar for the first $1k and then after that it was a cash bar. If a few alchies thought we were being cheap, so be it. I could give a rats arse.

jlzinck · 05-24-2015, 09:27 PM

Some people in this thread are extremely wealthy or out of touch with reality

izybone · 05-24-2015, 09:38 PM

We had a few kegs and a double barreled daiquiri/margarita machine.

It was perfect.

No idiot relatives or friends getting shwasted and starting shiz either.

It was perfect.

Something about like this...

lindeman79 · 05-24-2015, 09:41 PM

I never thought of that but that IS a great idea.

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Originally Posted by dolphinsdude

At my wedding we had an open bar for the first $1k and then after that it was a cash bar. If a few alchies thought we were being cheap, so be it. I could give a rats arse.

Crazybella8 · 05-24-2015, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by freethrowtommy

TIL some people go to weddings to drink.

I don't find it tacky. Most of the cash bars I have seen give out beer and wine for free and the hard stuff you need to pay for. I don't see any problem with that. I didn't go to the person's wedding for the alcohol, I went for the people getting married.

Agree 100%! We did this for our wedding! If you want to get drunk on free drinks from me then I didn't want you at our wedding! I don't care if you thought we were tacky!

Clarka3 · 05-24-2015, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by jlzinck

Some people in this thread are extremely wealthy or out of touch with reality

some might say... entitled?

preakness · 05-24-2015, 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Clarka3

some might say... entitled?

Wife and I both from
Blue collar families

We paid for wedding ourselves

Open bar a must

Like I mentioned earlier, never been to wedding that wasn't

BAMBAM · 05-24-2015, 10:14 PM

Wedding receptions are always about what you can afford without putting yourself in a financial bind. The Mrs. and I had a top shelf open bar complete with shots (probably a rarity these days). A good time was had by all and nobody died.

Only negative was the caterers set up a table by the door with pastries for people to take as they left and one of my groomsmen fell into it.

Of course I got married in '95 and my father was a member of the club/hall we held the reception in so I got a sweet deal on the bar expenses.

awz50 · 05-24-2015, 10:18 PM

Tacky very tacky

Clarka3 · 05-24-2015, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by preakness

Wife and I both from
Blue collar families

We paid for wedding ourselves

Open bar a must

Like I mentioned earlier, never been to wedding that wasn't

i've been to one that wasn't in recent memory. BUT, i will say the food at that one was top flight.

Brobocop · 05-24-2015, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Clarka3

i've been to one that wasn't in recent memory. BUT, i will say the food at that one was top flight.

If you bring the pain when it comes to food then yeah, the open bar can become a second thought.

What are people's thoughts on having food set out after dinner has been served? I went to a wedding once that had things like deli sandwiches out after dinner, and I marked that down as a possible must-have if I ever get married. That or a huge dessert bar, I think if you do things like that that can make a huge lasting impression on your guests.

xbignick · 05-24-2015, 10:41 PM

I've been to a couple weddings in Greece. There, they charged for everything from a bottle of water, to a can of soda, to a beer. The bride and groom sent me to get water for them and the guy got pissed, apparently it's a common scam. The food, however, was free (random people no one knew took advantage of this with to-go trays).

Clarka3 · 05-24-2015, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Brobocop

If you bring the pain when it comes to food then yeah, the open bar can become a second thought.

What are people's thoughts on having food set out after dinner has been served? I went to a wedding once that had things like deli sandwiches out after dinner, and I marked that down as a possible must-have if I ever get married. That or a huge dessert bar, I think if you do things like that that can make a huge lasting impression on your guests.

one of the vendors we were looking at had options for some specialty stations for after the main course.

like a Taco/Nacho bar, a Coney bar, etc.

xbignick · 05-24-2015, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Brobocop

If you bring the pain when it comes to food then yeah, the open bar can become a second thought.

What are people's thoughts on having food set out after dinner has been served? I went to a wedding once that had things like deli sandwiches out after dinner, and I marked that down as a possible must-have if I ever get married. That or a huge dessert bar, I think if you do things like that that can make a huge lasting impression on your guests.

From an older post of mine:

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Originally Posted by xbignick

Hope it's not an expensive theme and the typical suit would fit for most. Worry about their pockets too.

My cousin's wedding was the best I've been too. Vodka iced sculpture, open bar, dessert buffet style with chocolate fountain. Basically the key seems to be making it interactive for all involved. If you're doing it in a big area and I'm assuming part of it will be outside, then heck maybe consider fireworks or something that utilizes the space.

Oh and either some kind of booze or snack take-home for all guests.

Sandwiches and stuff I guess depends on how early you have the main meal, but between appetizers, salad, dinner, whatever it may be, go with the desserts. Chocolate fountain, popcorn machine, etc. - keep it fun.

death2redemptions · 05-24-2015, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by jlzinck

Some people in this thread are extremely wealthy or out of touch with reality

My parents are wealthy and they owe me for being such a good son.

skillovermyluck · 05-25-2015, 12:09 AM

For most Big Events .. we do like this ... Its open bar .. for 2-3hrs .. Most likely if you are there early its because you are family , cared enough to sshow up early .. these people should get open bar .. usually set price per item before ... bring in and tally onlly those drinks .. or just pay set price for certain shelf for those hours ... and than we also try to set a bottle of hard liquor at every table .. so that when open bar is over those guests still have free drinks if they choose .

any late stragglers or late shows are just there because its a party of someone they know .. dont care to pay for your drinks ..

Tyler9755 · 05-25-2015, 12:27 AM

Am I the only person that wouldn't want any alcohol at their wedding? I can't stand people when they're drunk. I've been drunk before and remembering how I've seen people act and how I acted when drunk, I'd rather not deal with that during my wedding. Call me insane, but I'm not technically against alcohol, I just don't knowingly drink it because I've seen how people act when drunk. (Story of me being drunk was the waiter accidentally gave me an alcoholic drink when I asked for a lemonade, the waiter told me right before I left that he accidentally gave me an alcoholic drink, and I had thought the lemonade tasted strange when I drank it. This happened at Applebee's)

chitownbears22 · 05-25-2015, 02:44 AM

Wife and I eloped. We had a party the weekend after. Margarita machine, BYOB, and we cooked out. My wife and I are not the type of people who spend money on ridiculous stuff generally (retire by 45 plan). The only reason we even had the party was to appease my mom and her mom.

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Clarka3 Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Cincinnati, OH Posts: 17,877 Clarka3 Clarka3	i don't think it's tacky. weddings can get expensive. but, as people have said, expect the gifts to go down a bit if you go with a cash option, or a destination wedding. __________________ Luke Kuechly Collector pending: w8lifter28 (custom), Don't ask me how much I want to offer. Come with a price in mind. If I don't want it or think it's worth that, I will let you know.

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dolphinsdude Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Posts: 1,148	At my wedding we had an open bar for the first $1k and then after that it was a cash bar. If a few alchies thought we were being cheap, so be it. I could give a rats arse.

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izybone Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Beavercreek, Ohio Posts: 2,530	We had a few kegs and a double barreled daiquiri/margarita machine. It was perfect. No idiot relatives or friends getting shwasted and starting shiz either. It was perfect. Something about like this... __________________ **“Change is the only constant in life.”--Embrace It** Last edited by izybone; 05-24-2015 at 09:41 PM.

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BAMBAM Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Southern New Jersey Posts: 8,460	Wedding receptions are always about what you can afford without putting yourself in a financial bind. The Mrs. and I had a top shelf open bar complete with shots (probably a rarity these days). A good time was had by all and nobody died. Only negative was the caterers set up a table by the door with pastries for people to take as they left and one of my groomsmen fell into it. Of course I got married in '95 and my father was a member of the club/hall we held the reception in so I got a sweet deal on the bar expenses. __________________ IF YOU CAN'T TAKE AN HONEST REPLY THEN DON'T ASK. ALWAYS BUYING '97 LEGENDS AUTOS OR H.O.F. AUTO NEEDS

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xbignick Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 29,309 xxbignick	I've been to a couple weddings in Greece. There, they charged for everything from a bottle of water, to a can of soda, to a beer. The bride and groom sent me to get water for them and the guy got pissed, apparently it's a common scam. The food, however, was free (random people no one knew took advantage of this with to-go trays). __________________ @xxbignick on twitter

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skillovermyluck Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Chicago Posts: 3,345 los880 skillovermyluck	For most Big Events .. we do like this ... Its open bar .. for 2-3hrs .. Most likely if you are there early its because you are family , cared enough to sshow up early .. these people should get open bar .. usually set price per item before ... bring in and tally onlly those drinks .. or just pay set price for certain shelf for those hours ... and than we also try to set a bottle of hard liquor at every table .. so that when open bar is over those guests still have free drinks if they choose . any late stragglers or late shows are just there because its a party of someone they know .. dont care to pay for your drinks .. __________________ " Get the hell out of Here , with that Dumb Sht " - Houdini Looking for 2010 Playoff Contenders Kevin Durant die-cut black /49

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Tyler9755 Member Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Lexington, South Carolina Posts: 1,055	Am I the only person that wouldn't want any alcohol at their wedding? I can't stand people when they're drunk. I've been drunk before and remembering how I've seen people act and how I acted when drunk, I'd rather not deal with that during my wedding. Call me insane, but I'm not technically against alcohol, I just don't knowingly drink it because I've seen how people act when drunk. (Story of me being drunk was the waiter accidentally gave me an alcoholic drink when I asked for a lemonade, the waiter told me right before I left that he accidentally gave me an alcoholic drink, and I had thought the lemonade tasted strange when I drank it. This happened at Applebee's) __________________ Cards prices are just too damn high.

05-25-2015, 02:44 AM	#50
chitownbears22 Banned Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 8,689	Wife and I eloped. We had a party the weekend after. Margarita machine, BYOB, and we cooked out. My wife and I are not the type of people who spend money on ridiculous stuff generally (retire by 45 plan). The only reason we even had the party was to appease my mom and her mom.