Can a man and woman be friends?

[pejc300]

Originally Posted by TheFrenzy

It might also help if people who were married described their own relationship and their expectations along with answering.

I know there are plenty of folks who either hardly see their spouses or even view the relationship more like business partnership. They're obviously going to have different takes than people who see their relationship as built on the depth and exclusivity both partners share.

Then there's my good buddy and his wife. They were both best friends with the same guy in high school and now that they have kids, they alternate years where one of them will fly out to spend a week with the guy and hang out. They're happy.

Still working my way through this thread, but just so we're all on the same page, they're banging.

[JosieD]

Originally Posted by pejc300

Still working my way through this thread, but just so we're all on the same page, they're banging.

All 3 of them.

[JeremyNick]

Originally Posted by JosieD

All 3 of them.

The Tripod of Friendship.

[sportzluvr1]

I showed her the thread, we read through it, had a couple laughs......

She then told me I need to reevaluate some of the things I post on here.

Currently in an existential crisis.

[ssbledsoe]

Nice to see Mike Braswell Pence is into sports cardz...

[ssbledsoe]

Originally Posted by Ray27Ray52

Frenzy's wifey needs to make an account. Then her and Josie can fight it out for "female supremacy" on BO. Preferrably in mud in a $19.99 blowup pool purchased from a local Walmart.

Leave the mud

Take the baby oil

-Rocco Lampone
--ssb
---probably

[JeremyNick]

At 6:12 PM EST

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Everyone else are people, but I disagree with your last sentence.

I am done here though as I said everything that has needed to be said.

But apparently not quite….

Originally Posted by Braswell10

I respect your opinion my friend, I am glad you have a relationship you value.

No hate, just different perspectives.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Live in the same building but we got different views.

Walk the same path, but got on different shoes.

Just because we live on earth and eat food does not even remotely have anything to do with this topic.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Men and women procreate. They don't go to the bar and chug beers and then shake hands afterwards.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

I would just like asujbl to give his viewpoint instead of repeatedly typing "this post is trash" everywhere.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Women love rich white guys.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Bless your heart.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Its the "who can wear the least amount of clothes without being thrown out" challenge.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

- N/A in college
- No
- No
- White. Computer Science senior in college who drives a hand me down corvette and likes saving money.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

LMAOOOO.

Tell her you have a lot in common and then proceed to say you both live on planet earth.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

You will soon realize age is simply a number. Unfortunately from your posts, I couldnt even tell who was the elder.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

I see you have nothing else to say. Ill buy you a beer, and Ill put it on my tab so you will have more gambling money.

You would think in all your years you would know how to put together a coherent paragraph on a topic like this. Hate to see it.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

I'm 24.

The first thing you named that men and women have in common was that we live on planet earth. I cant take that serious.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

I hope you make all the female friends you can! I will be doing something else.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Looking forward to her honest response.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

In short, this is the answer.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

I was saying that since the beginning.

Then at 11:45 PM EST - a solid 5 and a half hours later.

Originally Posted by Braswell10

Yes, ksemmel was the only one who at least explained his point of view without strictly resorting to name calling.

And I respect that.

I went back and was reading this thread with my coffee and what a wild ride of nonsense but I didn’t see that “I’m done” post til this morning.

What an insane hill to die on.

Well done BO. This one should end up in the “History of BO” thread.

[mike1498]

Originally Posted by JeremyNick

At 6:12 PM EST


What an insane hill to die on.

Well done BO. This one should end up in the “History of BO” thread.

Is it really that bad of a hill to die on? Only 48% of BO voted yes to this question. I'm not going to try to decipher where "You're nuts" and "I am the son" belong.

I'd agree Brass maybe came on slightly strong, but it's a lot more open for interpretation then you make it out to be.

[Braswell10]

Originally Posted by JeremyNick

At 6:12 PM EST



But apparently not quite….

































Then at 11:45 PM EST - a solid 5 and a half hours later.



I went back and was reading this thread with my coffee and what a wild ride of nonsense but I didn’t see that “I’m done” post til this morning.

What an insane hill to die on.

Well done BO. This one should end up in the “History of BO” thread.

None of the following posts after that had anything to do with me stating my opinion, plus I was waiting for Mrs. Frenzy’s response (which Frenzy gave me via pm).

That’s the beauty of life, people can have opposing views. Unfortunately, yours and many people’s first line of defense is name calling and insults instead of putting together a solid argument.

More people agree with me than you think, and it just shows how ignorant you are.

[JeremyNick]

Originally Posted by Braswell10

None of the following posts after that had anything to do with me stating my opinion, plus I was waiting for Mrs. Frenzy’s response (which Frenzy gave me via pm).

That’s the beauty of life, people can have opposing views. Unfortunately, yours and many people’s first line of defense is name calling and insults instead of putting together a solid argument.

More people agree with me than you think, and it just shows how ignorant you are.

https://www.blowoutforums.com/showpo...5&postcount=10

Seems to be your defensive go to though. Just another example of the dissonance between the way you are and the way you think you are.

Either way, all I did was point out how large the discrepancy was. If it makes you uncomfortable that’s not a bad thing, tension pushes us towards change.

Hopefully it’s positive change for you.

Also I’m done here. It’s been fun.

[ksemmel]

Originally Posted by TheFrenzy

Page 4.

Now she's punching my arm saying "people aren't DEFINING what they mean by 'friends' and it's why they have such wildly different opinions!"

I think this, age and relationship status of the time meeting and growing a relationship with the female friend is really the key and where this discussion may have gone sideways.

At say 40 and married, is it usual to make just a female friend as a male? Probably not. Possible, yes, but unlikely.

In my instance, at 18,19,20, I think making a female friend is a lot more likely and socially acceptable.

With that being said, I do think the post #59 (and more recent posts) in this thread highlight a very poor presentation from a few people about the subject. To me, presenting a different point of view but being disrespectful to the people you are discussing the topic with is a poor look. The discussion went from what could have been an interesting and fun back and forth, to just insulting people that have/believe in a different situation that you do.

[Braswell10]

Originally Posted by JeremyNick

https://www.blowoutforums.com/showpo...5&postcount=10

Seems to be your defensive go to though. Just another example of the dissonance between the way you are and the way you think you are.

Either way, all I did was point out how large the discrepancy was. If it makes you uncomfortable that’s not a bad thing, tension pushes us towards change.

Hopefully it’s positive change for you.

Also I’m done here. It’s been fun.

You and others were taking jabs at me all night without explaining any of your viewpoints. If you can’t handle a simple comeback like that, then I don’t know what to tell you.

If you dish it out, you have got to be able to handle it if it gets sent back. That’s rule number one.

[jlzinck]

Originally Posted by JeremyNick

.

I am told by the internet this is not true.

[carlo16]

Originally Posted by TheFrenzy

I am currently reading this thread out loud to my wife.

We're on Page 2.

She's getting ice cream at the moment.

Somebody married you???

What's the name of your cult?

[Braswell10]

Originally Posted by ksemmel

I think this, age and relationship status of the time meeting and growing a relationship with the female friend is really the key and where this discussion may have gone sideways.

At say 40 and married, is it usual to make just a female friend as a male? Probably not. Possible, yes, but unlikely.

In my instance, at 18,19,20, I think making a female friend is a lot more likely and socially acceptable.

With that being said, I do think the post #59 (and more recent posts) in this thread highlight a very poor presentation from a few people about the subject. To me, presenting a different point of view but being disrespectful to the people you are discussing the topic with is a poor look. The discussion went from what could have been an interesting and fun back and forth, to just insulting people that have/believe in a different situation that you do.

I have explained my viewpoint clearly. Whether others agree or disagree is up to them. You were the only one in here that even attempted to explain your opposing point of view.

In response to post 59: The “you must hate yourself” is a little strong worded, but I thought it was a well known thing that men that say they have women friends are more feminine. Literally the only guys I knew who actually would hang out with girls were gay. I did not think that was disrespect.

It goes both ways because the entire thread I had people calling me a psychopath because I said something they didn’t agree with. No talking point is ever going to last with stuff like that happening.

[mike1498]

Originally Posted by ksemmel

I think this, age and relationship status of the time meeting and growing a relationship with the female friend is really the key and where this discussion may have gone sideways.

At say 40 and married, is it usual to make just a female friend as a male? Probably not. Possible, yes, but unlikely.

In my instance, at 18,19,20, I think making a female friend is a lot more likely and socially acceptable.

With that being said, I do think the post #59 (and more recent posts) in this thread highlight a very poor presentation from a few people about the subject. To me, presenting a different point of view but being disrespectful to the people you are discussing the topic with is a poor look. The discussion went from what could have been an interesting and fun back and forth, to just insulting people that have/believe in a different situation that you do.

This is a terrible take.

While I agree certain quotes were a little out of hand, most are just the opposing view. Meanwhile post #59 doesn't show arguably the worse stuff JeremyNick and Asjbul have said.

I respect your view as you've answered the questions asked and it works for you. That being said, everyone else in your camp either is 1) Clearly deflecting by not answering any questions 2) Trolling 3) Both

[Siberian13]

Originally Posted by jlzinck

I am told by the internet this is not true.

It’s very confusing times

[ksemmel]

Originally Posted by mike1498

This is a terrible take.

While I agree certain quotes were a little out of hand, most are just the opposing view. Meanwhile post #59 doesn't show arguably the worse stuff JeremyNick and Asjbul have said.

I respect your view as you've answered the questions asked and it works for you. That being said, everyone else in your camp either is 1) Clearly deflecting by not answering any questions 2) Trolling 3) Both

Originally Posted by Braswell10

I have explained my viewpoint clearly. Whether others agree or disagree is up to them. You were the only one in here that even attempted to explain your opposing point of view.

In response to post 59: The “you must hate yourself” is a little strong worded, but I thought it was a well known thing that men that say they have women friends are more feminine. Literally the only guys I knew who actually would hang out with girls were gay. I did not think that was disrespect.

It goes both ways because the entire thread I had people calling me a psychopath because I said something they didn’t agree with. No talking point is ever going to last with stuff like that happening.

You guys both kind of said the same thing here so answering both. Admittingly, I paid a lot more attention to the viewpoints of the opposing side as that is mainly who I was in conversation with. But like more online things, I do think the presentation of a lot of posts across the board may not have been presented correctly. I think a lot of posts came off as attacking rather than discussing, and that is what I am trying to say now.

All good though, no hard feelings on my end.

[mike1498]

Originally Posted by ksemmel

You guys both kind of said the same thing here so answering both. Admittingly, I paid a lot more attention to the viewpoints of the opposing side as that is mainly who I was in conversation with. But like more online things, I do think the presentation of a lot of posts across the board may not have been presented correctly. I think a lot of posts came off as attacking rather than discussing, and that is what I am trying to say now.

All good though, no hard feelings on my end.

Well when you're called a psychopath (not by you), it's a little hard to be calm.

Really how I view this argument at its face is this.

One side feels both partners have enough trust in each other to have friends of the opposite gender while still being loyal.

The other side feels no matter how hard you try to be loyal, biologically our brain thinks in sometimes bad ways and its best not to have friends of the opposite gender. Especially since they probably don't enhance your life any more than what you already have.

Then basically one side says the other side is psychopath sexual demons while the other side says they are being unfaithful partners.

Neither were unnecessary. Both were said.

No hard feelings towards you as well. I appreciate the dialogue. But Post #59 is not a fair representation of this thread.

[JeremyNick]

Originally Posted by mike1498

This is a terrible take.

While I agree certain quotes were a little out of hand, most are just the opposing view. Meanwhile post #59 doesn't show arguably the worse stuff JeremyNick and Asjbul have said.

I respect your view as you've answered the questions asked and it works for you. That being said, everyone else in your camp either is 1) Clearly deflecting by not answering any questions 2) Trolling 3) Both

I’ll rescind my “I’m done” to challenge this.

Worse stuff? Claiming he’s young and trying to nail everything? I had 5 replies or posts towards him in this thread last night. And the bulk were trying to steer him away from his awful hot “what do men and women have in common” take.

And yes, I absolutely was trolling because the posts were beyond having a real conversation.

[mike1498]

Originally Posted by JeremyNick

I’ll rescind my “I’m done” to challenge this.

Worse stuff? Claiming he’s young and trying to nail everything? I had 5 replies or posts towards him in this thread last night. And the bulk were trying to steer him away from his awful hot “what do men and women have in common” take.

And yes, I absolutely was trolling because the posts were beyond having a real conversation.

I mean, I feel that's the opposing view though. I really don't have much in common with my girlfriend. I do my "guy" stuff with my guy friends.

It's probably not a representation of the world. And I'm sure even Brass knows this. I'm leaning towards it being somewhat of a hyperbole.

And maybe this changes. Cause after graduating college you probably don't have as much free time to do what you enjoy so the activities and friendships you have are different as life outside of college.

But I'm curious, would you say your friendships you've made outside of college, do you feel they are as deep as your friendships you made as a child or in college?

[TheFrenzy]

Originally Posted by pejc300

Still working my way through this thread, but just so we're all on the same page, they're banging.

They are honestly the sweetest, most innocent white bread couple—love them to death, but we’d be over at their place grilling, watching football, and one of them would walk through the living room on the phone and the other would be like, “ hey babe, it’s my turn to talk to Shane. You’ve had him long enough.”

[TheFrenzy]

Originally Posted by oldgoldy97

Drinking on a school night?

Finished writing a book this weekend, had a great class yesterday, and I don’t teach today.

I let my guard down and overindulged. Now I’m sipping some Gatorade and Pedialyte and grading some papers.

[JeremyNick]

Originally Posted by mike1498

I mean, I feel that's the opposing view though. I really don't have much in common with my girlfriend. I do my "guy" stuff with my guy friends.

It's probably not a representation of the world. And I'm sure even Brass knows this. I'm leaning towards it being somewhat of a hyperbole.

And maybe this changes. Cause after graduating college you probably don't have as much free time to do what you enjoy so the activities and friendships you have are different as life outside of college.

But I'm curious, would you say your friendships you've made outside of college, do you feel they are as deep as your friendships you made as a child or in college?

He said it enough that it was absolutely not hyperbole, it was the foundation of his argument.

But regardless my post was just challenging the “worse stuff” I apparently said here, comment.

[jplarson]

Originally Posted by carlo16

Somebody married you???

What's the name of your cult?

First post in this thread and that's the clown material you're debuting with?

Pathetic.