Can a man and woman be friends? - Page 7

asujbl · 10-03-2023, 06:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Braswell10

- N/A in college
- No
- No
- White. Computer Science senior in college who drives a hand me down corvette and likes saving money.

Wait you’re in college?

Holy crap

Literally none of what you said is relevant

What a waste of all our adult time

You owe me my hourly rate you child

Braswell10 · 10-03-2023, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by asujbl

Wait you’re in college?

Holy crap

Literally none of what you said is relevant

What a waste of all our adult time

You owe me my hourly rate you child

You will soon realize age is simply a number. Unfortunately from your posts, I couldnt even tell who was the elder.

TheFrenzy · 10-03-2023, 06:39 PM

Also, to play fair:

- Married for 15 years. We’ve slept apart maybe a dozen nights across those years. We’ve typically worked within walking distance of each other.

- No

- Yes

- Grad student. Lower-middle class? Was raised middle class before my dad made it big and we had a few upper class years before the cancer treatments trained the family resources.

TheFrenzy · 10-03-2023, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by asujbl

Wait you’re in college?

Holy crap

Literally none of what you said is relevant

What a waste of all our adult time

You owe me my hourly rate you child

Ok, that’s what’s Joobs thinks.

I feel like Jason would buy the kid a beer and listen to his stories.

JeremyNick · 10-03-2023, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by TheFrenzy

Ok, that’s what’s Joobs thinks.

I feel like Jason would buy the kid a beer and listen to his stories.

I don’t think he can drink beer yet.

asujbl · 10-03-2023, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by JeremyNick

I don’t think he can drink beer yet.

Because he’s a child

TheFrenzy · 10-03-2023, 06:46 PM

I thought we were trying to encourage kids to get into the hobby?

JeremyNick · 10-03-2023, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by asujbl

Because he’s a child

This guy gets it.

He’s 19 and trying to nail everything like he’s building a house.

mike1498 · 10-03-2023, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Braswell10

You will soon realize age is simply a number. Unfortunately from your posts, I couldnt even tell who was the elder.

At least you know you can be friends with his wife. Sounds like he's cool with it

Braswell10 · 10-03-2023, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by asujbl

Because he’s a child

I see you have nothing else to say. Ill buy you a beer, and Ill put it on my tab so you will have more gambling money.

You would think in all your years you would know how to put together a coherent paragraph on a topic like this. Hate to see it.

TheFrenzy · 10-03-2023, 06:50 PM

Reframe the question: Can college-aged boys and girls just be friends? Do good things happen when college-aged people in relationships go to parties and out drinking with groups of the opposite gender?

Now how do his responses read?

Braswell10 · 10-03-2023, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by JeremyNick

This guy gets it.

He’s 19 and trying to nail everything like he’s building a house.

I'm 24.

The first thing you named that men and women have in common was that we live on planet earth. I cant take that serious.

Siberian13 · 10-03-2023, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Braswell10

I'm 24.

The first thing you named that men and women have in common was that we live on planet earth. I cant take that serious.

Can’t*. Be careful buddy you on thin ice

TheFrenzy · 10-03-2023, 06:53 PM

If nothing else, this thread is probably going to be a fantastic resource for any woman wondering if men think they can just be friends.

JeremyNick · 10-03-2023, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Braswell10

I'm 24.

The first thing you named that men and women have in common was that we live on planet earth. I cant take that serious.

Good. We got a starting point.

Now if we go back to your post, I made the over the top reply to, your worldview is Kindergarten Cop:

And because of that, they can have zero in common.

The reality is they can have any number of things in common to build a friendship from that transcends sex organs.

TheHeel · 10-03-2023, 06:57 PM

I wish I was 24 again.

Enjoy it, young man.

TheFrenzy · 10-03-2023, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by TheHeel

I wish I was 24 again.

Enjoy it, young man.

27 was the perfect age for me.

mike1498 · 10-03-2023, 07:01 PM

Serious question.

What does everyone do with their female non wife friends? Is the wife always invited?

How deep are the conversations you having? Are they surface level?

And since you've been dating someone else/married has your conversations changed comparatively to when you were both single?

Braswell10 · 10-03-2023, 07:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JeremyNick

Good. We got a starting point.

Now if we go back to your post, I made the over the top reply to, your worldview is Kindergarten Cop:

And because of that, they can have zero in common.

The reality is they can have any number of things in common to build a friendship from that transcends sex organs.

I hope you make all the female friends you can! I will be doing something else.

JeremyNick · 10-03-2023, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Braswell10

I hope you make all the female friends you can! I will be doing something else.

Married 16 years.
Wife is my best friend
Handful of close guy friends and their wives.
It works for me. Other people are different. That’s cool too.

Siberian13 · 10-03-2023, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by mike1498

Serious question.

What does everyone do with their female non wife friends? Is the wife always invited?

How deep are the conversations you having? Are they surface level?

And since you've been dating someone else/married has your conversations changed comparatively to when you were both single?

When asujbl finds out how old you are you

TheFrenzy · 10-03-2023, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mike1498

Serious question.

What does everyone do with their female non wife friends? Is the wife always invited?

How deep are the conversations you having? Are they surface level?

And since you've been dating someone else/married has your conversations changed comparatively to when you were both single?

All my friends (and even my TAs) are male. I’m “friends” my married friends’ wives, but I’m not texting or calling other than maybe to set up a surprise birthday party. And usually my wife is on the group text because she’s part of the planning committee.

Female “friends” to me at most look like the woman in my PhD program who is from Haiti and 20 years older than me. She’s a former Marine and a wonderful person and often hosts cook outs for all the grad students. I’ll chat with her about school and our profession when we’re in the office together—but that’s really it for me.

And no. I’m not “friends” with any of my students—male or female.

ksemmel · 10-03-2023, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by mike1498

Serious question.

What does everyone do with their female non wife friends? Is the wife always invited?

How deep are the conversations you having? Are they surface level?

And since you've been dating someone else/married has your conversations changed comparatively to when you were both single?

Usually just go out and grab dinner, get a beer or go over to the other person's place. Probably 70% of the time my gf is there now, and 30% not. Usually that would just be a schedule conflict though if she or I didn't go

Deep is usually dependent on recent life events for either party. Would be as deep with my gf as without and we had 12 years ago.

oldgoldy97 · 10-03-2023, 08:20 PM

I just asked someone out for coffee so I guess we’ll find out.

oldgoldy97 · 10-03-2023, 08:22 PM

And I guess I’ve aged to where I’ll be disappointed for her to say no, but I’m adult enough to say that’s her prerogative.

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10-03-2023, 08:20 PM	#174
oldgoldy97 Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 52,485	I just asked someone out for coffee so I guess we’ll find out. __________________ Truly riveting discussion: that’s what your wife/girlfriend/sheep said.

10-03-2023, 08:22 PM	#175
oldgoldy97 Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 52,485	And I guess I’ve aged to where I’ll be disappointed for her to say no, but I’m adult enough to say that’s her prerogative. __________________ Truly riveting discussion: that’s what your wife/girlfriend/sheep said.

10-03-2023, 06:39 PM	#153
TheFrenzy Banned Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Texan in AZ Posts: 44,115	Also, to play fair: - Married for 15 years. We’ve slept apart maybe a dozen nights across those years. We’ve typically worked within walking distance of each other. - No - Yes - Grad student. Lower-middle class? Was raised middle class before my dad made it big and we had a few upper class years before the cancer treatments trained the family resources.

10-03-2023, 06:46 PM	#157
TheFrenzy Banned Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Texan in AZ Posts: 44,115	I thought we were trying to encourage kids to get into the hobby?

10-03-2023, 06:50 PM	#161
TheFrenzy Banned Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Texan in AZ Posts: 44,115	Reframe the question: Can college-aged boys and girls just be friends? Do good things happen when college-aged people in relationships go to parties and out drinking with groups of the opposite gender? Now how do his responses read?

10-03-2023, 06:53 PM	#164
TheFrenzy Banned Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Texan in AZ Posts: 44,115	If nothing else, this thread is probably going to be a fantastic resource for any woman wondering if men think they can just be friends.