What would you do Ethical Question

[arek]

2019, BO secret santa taken care of.

But i'd try to return them with the expectation that I'd probably not get any thanks.

[pingbling23]

Try to return them.

[Peties Army]

Again not an ethical question.

[Ashes]

Yes.
If you can find an address, you can probably find a phone number (to the physical location...house, apartment complex, whatever).
Give a call.
Tell them the situation.
If no one wants it or you strike out, you tried.
No need for a face to face situation.
No need to mail.

Originally Posted by 3AND4

I ask the members of this forum as you usually get either good advice OR 50/50 advice & then are more confused LOL!


I recentlly got a bunch of junk at an auction. Mixed in with the junk was personal pictures & a few momentos. Mostly a woman ( NO Porn) including wedding photos & a kid. Pics range from teen years to 30s-40s.

There was enough info that I somewhat was able to find out a general location.

Would you try to return the pics & if so How.

Mail, Drop them at last known address etc etc


Of course first thing is Yes Return them its nice & the right thing to do, However If I do try return the pics

1 If I am not 100% sure the address is correct I could be sending it to another stranger

2 What if the woman passed?

3 What if she didnt want the pics & then it open up old wounds?


I Really could use advice. Returning them to the auction place is a no go as it would get tossed. Lots of storage bin type consigners so they wouldnt be interested in tracking down someone for pics.

My biggest fear is opening up old wounds for a stranger.

Thanks Blowout!

Originally Posted by Peties Army

This is no way an ethical question.

Do you want to try to do something that maybe nice or not cause it’s a pain in the ass.

I probably wouldn’t. Who knows what happened?

Originally Posted by Peties Army

Also why do you think it’s the right thing to do? You have no clue what happened. Maybe it was a horrible time in her life and doesn’t want to remember them

Originally Posted by kerg

Not really an ethics question.. for of an empathy question I think. Given they are pictures, I'd probably try to get them back in someone's hands. I wouldn't expend a massive amount of energy, but if it was a quick google/fb lookup, sure.

Originally Posted by Peties Army

Again not an ethical question.

Please enlighten me.
How is this not an Ethical Question?
Was it because nothing was implied or involved the words 'ought' or 'should'?

What constitutes an Ethical Question?
Ethical questions involve or imply the words ‘ought’ or
‘should’. They involve consideration of conflicting moral
choices and dilemmas, with several alternative solutions, none
of which is without some challenging or problematic aspect.
They arise because of our social responsibilities to others in our
community and because our behavior is capable of influencing
the welfare of others. Conflicts among principles and values
held by different individuals or groups generate such questions.


Santa's "Nice" List
1. mwheeler27
2. IronMonkey415
3. escapegoat
4. jdandns
5. kerg
6. arek
7. pingbling23

The rest get coal in their stockings.

[Boo]

Originally Posted by ThoseBackPages

BO? seriously? nobody has asked if shes hot yet?

you disappoint me!

Exactly, post them here and let us decide

[jlzinck]

Originally Posted by escapegoat

first off, i think it’s cool that the thought crossed your mind! i’d personally make the effort to try and get them to the owner. good or bad memories, i think it’s admirable to at least let the owner have the final say on what to do with the pictures, if you have the time and want to make the effort!

This....
The easiest way to go about this is to see if there is a local social media group to the town where you believe the person is from.

Make a post with a couple of pictures asking if anyone knows this person and if she would like her photos back.

You can leave them at a local PO and they can have them back

[MossDC4L]

Originally Posted by ThoseBackPages

BO? seriously? nobody has asked if shes hot yet?

you disappoint me!

The thought crossed my mind, but I decided to be ethical and not ask...

[Siberian13]

Originally Posted by Ashes

Yes.
If you can find an address, you can probably find a phone number (to the physical location...house, apartment complex, whatever).
Give a call.
Tell them the situation.
If no one wants it or you strike out, you tried.
No need for a face to face situation.
No need to mail.


Please enlighten me.
How is this not an Ethical Question?
Was it because nothing was implied or involved the words 'ought' or 'should'?

What constitutes an Ethical Question?
Ethical questions involve or imply the words ‘ought’ or
‘should’. They involve consideration of conflicting moral
choices and dilemmas, with several alternative solutions, none
of which is without some challenging or problematic aspect.
They arise because of our social responsibilities to others in our
community and because our behavior is capable of influencing
the welfare of others. Conflicts among principles and values
held by different individuals or groups generate such questions.


Santa's "Nice" List
1. mwheeler27
2. IronMonkey415
3. escapegoat
4. jdandns
5. kerg
6. arek
7. pingbling23

The rest get coal in their stockings.

How am I not on the nice list? By displaying all those photos it shows I’m taking care of them and care about the photos.

[Peties Army]

Originally Posted by Ashes

Yes.
If you can find an address, you can probably find a phone number (to the physical location...house, apartment complex, whatever).
Give a call.
Tell them the situation.
If no one wants it or you strike out, you tried.
No need for a face to face situation.
No need to mail.













Please enlighten me.
How is this not an Ethical Question?
Was it because nothing was implied or involved the words 'ought' or 'should'?

What constitutes an Ethical Question?
Ethical questions involve or imply the words ‘ought’ or
‘should’. They involve consideration of conflicting moral
choices and dilemmas, with several alternative solutions, none
of which is without some challenging or problematic aspect.
They arise because of our social responsibilities to others in our
community and because our behavior is capable of influencing
the welfare of others. Conflicts among principles and values
held by different individuals or groups generate such questions.


Santa's "Nice" List
1. mwheeler27
2. IronMonkey415
3. escapegoat
4. jdandns
5. kerg
6. arek
7. pingbling23

The rest get coal in their stockings.

There is not right or wrong here. He doesn’t know anything about these pictures. It would be ethical if the question was returning the pictures would make the women happy but doing it would require work and he can’t decide if he wants to do it.

[Ashes]

Originally Posted by Siberian13

How am I not on the nice list? By displaying all those photos it shows I’m taking care of them and care about the photos.

Hmmm...kinda pushin' the boundaries on that nicety, huh?

I'll tell a guy who know a girl who knows an elf to tell Santa that you're okay.
I think I have a picture of the elf.
Yeah, here it is.

[Siberian13]

[Peties Army]

Originally Posted by Siberian13

How am I not on the nice list? By displaying all those photos it shows I’m taking care of them and care about the photos.

Same here

I’m not saying not return(maybe I did) but he has no clue what the outcome will be

[ifish73]

Originally Posted by kerg

Not really an ethics question.. for of an empathy question I think. Given they are pictures, I'd probably try to get them back in someone's hands. I wouldn't expend a massive amount of energy, but if it was a quick google/fb lookup, sure.

Won't take much to do a search to try and find the person. If on FB you can compare pictures. This is what I would do if I were in your shoes.

[Boo]

Maybe some dude got a divorce and is throwing away the pictures of his cheating wife? I say return them and see if you get punched in the face.

[coachnip13]

Originally Posted by JMarchand1981

I don't have enough time to track people down.....

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[coachnip13]

You're asking a bunch of people who already established that they won't leave a couple of bucks for a tip when they pick up a to go order. No way people like that would even give a second thought to going out of their way to do something respectable.

[BostonNut]

This thread should take off now...

[Peties Army]

Originally Posted by coachnip13

You're asking a bunch of people who already established that they won't leave a couple of bucks for a tip when they pick up a to go order. No way people like that would even give a second thought to going out of their way to do something respectable.

It has nothing to do with being doing somebody “respectable”. The op simply doesn’t have any idea about the situation. He knows nothing about the people, zip. He has no idea what the situation is, was or could be. The one thing we do know is that the women or someone she appears to be close with was not responsible enough to pay for something they used. It’s just as likely this would make her upset then her happy.

Certainly is not an ethical question.

Also could even being causing trouble for the OP. Perhaps she forgot she had the locker and there is something very valuable in there she will want back.

There are just to many unknowns for me to think it’s a good idea.

If you could just drop them on a doorstep with out having to talk to anyone and leave a note saying you found these items, I’d say go for it. But with the chance the encounter could go bad, I would do it if it requires any sort of contact with the person. Way to many unknowns.

Has nothing to do with be “respectable”. It’s common sense to not put yourself in harm

[pingbling23]

Originally Posted by coachnip13

You're asking a bunch of people who already established that they won't leave a couple of bucks for a tip when they pick up a to go order. No way people like that would even give a second thought to going out of their way to do something respectable.

So because someone doesn’t tip when it’s not needed now they are bad people? Get off your pedestal.

[coachnip13]

Originally Posted by Peties Army

It has nothing to do with being doing somebody “respectable”. The op simply doesn’t have any idea about the situation. He knows nothing about the people, zip. He has no idea what the situation is, was or could be. The one thing we do know is that the women or someone she appears to be close with was not responsible enough to pay for something they used. It’s just as likely this would make her upset then her happy.

Certainly is not an ethical question.

Also could even being causing trouble for the OP. Perhaps she forgot she had the locker and there is something very valuable in there she will want back.

There are just to many unknowns for me to think it’s a good idea.

If you could just drop them on a doorstep with out having to talk to anyone I’d say go for it. But with the chance the encounter could go bad, I would do it if it requires any sort of contact with the person. Way to many unknowns.

Has nothing to do with be “respectable”. It’s common sense to not put yourself in harm

New postal rules in July allow someone to mail something without providing a return address.

[coachnip13]

Originally Posted by pingbling23

So because someone doesn’t tip when it’s not needed now they are bad people?

Not "bad", I was thinking more along the lines of selfish.

[Peties Army]

Originally Posted by coachnip13

New postal rules in July allow someone to mail something without providing a return address.

There you go seems reasonable.

[Siberian13]

Originally Posted by coachnip13

Not "bad", I was thinking more along the lines of selfish.

You come off as an extremely selfish person.

[Peties Army]

Originally Posted by coachnip13

Not "bad", I was thinking more along the lines of selfish.

Do you tip when you go to fast food? They are providing literally the same service. And you are doing way more work to pick something up then going through a drive thru

I tip but usually cause it’s easy to just round up to the next number ending in 5 or 0

[tennelson55]

Originally Posted by coachnip13

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